Understanding Russian Women or How to Tame a She-Bear

Russian women are said to be the most beautiful in the world. However, it can be very difficult for foreign men to understand Russian women due to severe cultural differences. Let's take a look at a few of them and try to understand what lies behind certain behavioral patterns.

1. A man should be the one to make the first move.

Yes, that's right. In Mother Russia women expect men to take initiative, be it asking her name or even calling. Men are supposed to call. Men are supposed to ask women out. Men are supposed to be the firs to say Ï love you".

But why is it so? Historically, in Russian society men stood high above women. All important governmental positions were always occupied by men. The role of female was to keep the household and care for children and her husband. That takes effect even now, in the modern society. In Russia there is still quite a huge deal of gender inequality. But this for sure should not be blamed on people, it's just history, from which culture developed. Still if you ask people about the role of a man and a woman, people would say that men are stronger, they are supposed to protect and care for the woman as his treasure, while women are supposed to take care of home and children. Moreover, men are percieved as getters and hunters.That's why in the minds of Russian women, men have to conquer women, they are the ones to make decisions and make first steps.

2. A man is the one to pay during dates.

In Russia "going dutch"is not very popular amongst dating couples. It is common knowledge, that if a man asks a woman out, he is the one to pay the bills. Of course, if a man and a woman meet as friends, they normally split the bills. But otherwise, not.

That still has to do with a mentality of acheiving and conquering women. You have to make an impression in order to get her attention.

3. Rule 1: she is always right. Rule 2: if she's wrong, see Rule 1.

Arguing with women can be the most tiring activity. Especially, arguing with Russian women. One should never underestimate the power of Russian ladies. sure, taking care of the man is sort of a priority, but in the heat of an argument not every woman will agree with her man if she is convinced that she is right. It is always better not to provoke any harsh discussion, since Russian women tend to be quite tempered and an argument about the unwashed dishes can easily lead to a a breakup. So, the best you can do is to sometimes let her "win" the argument, even if you are sure you are right. Eventually, she will understand that she was wrong all along, but you agreeing with her nevertheless will mean a whole lot to her, believe me. 4. Support is the key to trust and love

Women naturally tend to go through a lot of stressful and emotional situations. However, for a Russian woman, the support of her partner is crucial for her happiness. Did she have a rough day? Bother sitting down with her and talk this through. let her cry if she feels like she has to and don't annoy her with "solutions" to her problems. Often she knows exactly what to do in the situations she complains about, but if she shares this with you, she just want to be listened to, cuddled and comforted. If you tell her to "quit whinig" and give her a ry solution, she can be deeply offended as she will think that you consider her stupid. So instead, just comfort her and let her let the emotions out. You will see, after a very short time she will be alright again.

5. Your words can have more meaning than you put into them.

In Russia people see throusands of different meanings in a single sentence depending on the intonation, the choice of words, the situation and dozens of other factors. Russian culture is very high context in that sense, and sometimes you can offend people without even knowing it. Especially, if your culture is low context, or you are just very direct, it can cause a lot of misunderstandings in your relationship. But it is not only you who can be severely misunderstood, but as well you can misunderstand her, since she probably won't tell you things directly. Instead she will be "hinting". It is indeed, very complicated, but the more you communicate, the better you will understand each other. Pay more attention to the things she says. Did she menton a sale at the flower store? She wants flowers. Definitely. As well, if she gets offended by the stuff you did not mean to say, let her know that. Tell her to listen carefully to the exact things you are saying and tell her you mean nothing else than that. 6. Remind her you love her in every way you can

Of course, it does not apply to every single Russian woman. However, ladies like getting presents, and Russian ladies are no exception. In Russia it is very common to get small things for the person you love to let them know you think of them. It can seem rather materialistic from the first sight, however, it is not. If you come by the supermarket and you see a chocolate she really likes, get it for her. Believe me, we don't need diamonds or cars, just tiny little tokens of love every now and then. Those don't even have to be things, rather actions. Tell her something nice, make her a breakfast in the morning every now and then or give a massage. Just don't let her forget that you love her. And she will pay you back in exactly same way.

7. A woman is a reflection of her man's attitude towards her

This is very simple. The better you treat her, the better she will treat you. A woman is a flower, which blossoms in love. And this does not only apply to Russian women, but to all women. Why is it here then? Just a friendly reminder :)

I hope this proved to be useful to you, my dear reader. Please, leave your opinion about this post in the comment section down below. I wish you the best of luck and have a very nice day! Yours, Maria

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